I’ve been thinking about how we are all performers in a way. At least for me, I keep trying because I don’t want to be seen as a failure. When I don’t meet my personal goals, I feel like a complete failure. When I try my best and don’t receive appreciation or recognition, I feel…
Category: Lessons
Friday reflections
Some thoughts I have to get out into the universe before it festers in my mind. This is extremely scattered, but whatevs. The quality of relationships is far more important than the quantity. I’ve been thinking about some of the people I’ve cut out of my life. In my younger days, perhaps it was unfair…
Recent Reflections
Thoughts on a current lesson. My M.O. since birth has been to please people. To make others feel good about themselves by building them up. Even when they may not deserve it. It’s not all pure motives on my part. I think it’s because I’m afraid if I don’t make them feel good or if…
My Struggle with Nice
Admission: I’m a struggling, but recovering, Nice-oholic. I never thought being nice would affect my mental health. But here I am, being honest about this addiction for the first time. Being nice all my life has led to major self-esteem issues, loss of confidence, and allowing myself to be bullied and to become a martyr…
The Journey of the Whimsical Wallflower Continues
The journey of a heroine is filled with peril and adventure, twists and turns, love and heartbreak. But through it all, what is most important is the heroine’s character growth through the hardships and stumbling blocks thrown in her path. She must not wait for the world to happen to her nor be resigned to…
The PEI Adventures, Part 5
Wednesday, August 2, 2017: Driving from Tip to Tip We decide to drive around the island today. First, we head east towards Souris for Basin Head, also known as Singing Sands Beach. The sands are supposed to sing when you walk on them, but I’m disappointed. I barely hear a squeak. But the scenery more…
The PEI Adventures, Part 4
Monday, July 31, 2017. More Pretty Places and Lots of Eating. We get breakfast at a coffee shop called Beanz Cafe in downtown Charlottetown. Then we’re supposed to hike at the Winter Trail, but the trail isn’t marked clearly. We hike a bit, but decide to turn around before we get lost and no one…
The PEI Adventures, Part 3
Sunday, July 30, 2017. MY BIRTHDAY! Anne of Green Gables, Round 2 It’s the morning of my birthday, and….the cops pull us over. Turns out we’re going 80 kilometers per hour in a 50 kph zone. Now, 50 kph is equivalent to about 30 miles per hour, which is DAMN slow for LA drivers, especially…
The PEI Adventures, Part 2
Saturday, July 29, 2017. Anne of Green Gables, Round 1 This is the moment I am waiting for. MY. ENTIRE. LIFE. My bucket list item. To visit every Anne of Green Gables/L.M. Montgomery related site on Prince Edward Island. So Day 2 begins with a 30-minute drive from Charlottetown to Cavendish, which is the polar…
The PEI Adventures, Part 1
Prelude. July 2016. I always said I wanted to visit Prince Edward Island, but there was always some excuse not to make it happen. Not enough money. Not enough time. Can’t go by myself. Too scared. But then my 31st birthday passed, and something in me sparked. I didn’t want to live through another birthday…
Words to Remember My Grandfather
I’m six years old, and I can’t sit still. I’m so excited because it’s Grandparents’ Day, and my grandparents are coming to visit my class. When Grandpa walks in, I pull him and Grandma over to my desk. I listen impatiently as the other grandparents talk about their lives, and then finally, my teacher asks…
The Summers of Youth Now Grow Old
As summer draws to a close, a breathless hush settles in the stagnant air. August was a month of beach parties, bonfires, and fast-paced vacations. But in a rushing heartbeat, the dog days of August have passed into yesterday as autumn pushes into the spotlight. At my friend’s bachelorette party a couple of weekends ago,…
Untold Tales by a Whimsical Wallflower 